She's not that into you... Memorize this:)

Aloha,


Do you suffer pangs of conscience? Nervous? Jumpy? Scared?


Need a hide out from the law?


Well, step right up friend; I'll get you a bath with the birds.


The pre-relationship stage feels illegal. There are so many rules, guide lines and irritating emotions that make participating in a Greek choral verse sound more attractive. The iron taste in your mouth when trying your best to get a females attention leaves you feeling claustrophobic and often caged in the thought of 'now maybe that was not the best idea...'


How do I say this nicely... Sometimes a girl is just not that into you. Store this in your memory : It is not always your fault. Rather let nature take its course then drown a female with your never ending river of the future.


I shall give you a story from my memory .


Rugby finals.


I get a phone call from a mate informing me that he has a spare ticket to the game. Bubbling with euphoria, I immediately accept his invitation. Rugby is more then a game to me- It is a way of life...


He tells me to be there a 16:00. Game only starts at 17:30... An hour and a half with the mate prior to the game sounded harmless... So i thought.


I get there and he goes in for the hug... We never hug so i went in for the Hi5... Hi5/Hug was like a car stuck in fifth gear... Up a mountain... Not fun.


He then puts down his bag and unzips it. Out he pulls a spare rugby jersey, a rain jacket and a towel. Proudly ticking off the check list incase the heavens open, he informs that he brought double... So we'd match incase of a natural disaster... Yum.


One hour and twenty minutes before kick off... We walk around the stadium... He decides to be smooth and offers me something to drink. I decline. He insists. I decline again... He pauses. Insists. I oblige...


Then out of the blue; "If i was a traffic cop, i would bill you because your so fine".


(Confused face)


Then he rolls another; "Are you a car? Because I would bang into you everyday"


I did the awkward laugh and changed the subject to the youth of today... He replies with a memory he experienced in a club... A girl wrapping herself around him. The lights. Music. The aroma. Then the monstrosity occurs... She unbuttons his shirt. This is a pretty accurate quote of what he said;


"Those are MY abs. I work hard for them. They are for me to see when I go to bed or when I look in the mirror. It is not something you share. Come on man."


(Silent scream)


Proud to say that I saw my entire spectrum of friends before the game began, so the next time I spent alone time with rugby man was when we were seated.


Kick off!


Flipping intense right from the first whistle. Then all of a sudden he asks these deep meaningful questions that makes me want to tackle him because he is obliterating the intensity. The drive for the first try and he offers me biltong. I decline in excitement and he tugs at my arm. I look at him. They score a try. He asks for me reasoning as to why I don't want his biltong... Oh my word...


Enough about that now, it got worse. Don't worry.


The thing is, if a girl is not comfortable with you it will never work. Do not force it.


They will give you hints.


A wise female called Kayley replies to the question of letting a guy know she's not into him; "I would carry on mentioning the word mate or friend... without creating an awkward moment or hindering friendship". Alternatively a more direct approach like the emeritus Andi would say; "Uh, to be nice I'd say, 'I'm so glad that we can be such good mates with no romantic feelings.'"


Girls are naturally softer in their approach to letting a guy down so if she replies to your message three days late, always has a head ache when you ask her out or generally never instigates conversation:


Buddy, she's not into you.